When you hear the phrase “healthy lifestyle,” what do you think of? More than likely, the first things that come to mind are eating right and exercising regularly. Rarely do we think of social relationships as being just as vital to our health and wellbeing. But the results are in and it’s true – research shows that loneliness poses similar risks to your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day!
So even if you think you’re doing just fine on your own, it may be time to rethink the role that connection plays in your health.
The Science of Social Connection and Health
Human beings are wired for connection. From an evolutionary perspective, being part of a group increased our chances of survival. Fast forward thousands of years and our need for belonging hasn’t changed. Putting an emphasis on building meaningful bonds with those around you can help:
- Lower your risk of chronic disease like heart disease, dementia, high blood pressure, and diabetes.
- Reduce the risk of mental illness and boost resilience in times of stress
- Strengthen your immune system, protecting you from serious disease
- Strengthen cognitive function, including your memory and critical thinking skills
- Regulate your levels of cortisol (the stress hormone) and decrease the resulting inflammation in the body
- Improve your sleep
Beyond the mental, emotional, and physical benefits of social connection, strong relationships also encourage healthy behaviors through accountability and community. For example, you’re more likely to go on a walk or take a workout class if a friend joins you. You’re also more likely to schedule a doctor’s appointment if someone checks in to remind you.
Simply put: the quality of our relationships can influence how long and how well we live.
Practical Tips to Build and Strengthen Connections
Even if life feels busy, investing time and energy into your relationships is one of the best wellness habits you can create. Here are some easy tips that you can start implementing in your life today to strengthen your connections:
- Join a community group that aligns with your values or passions. Some examples of this are a walking group, book club, volunteer opportunity, or faith-based organization.
- Reach out to friends and family regularly to foster the relationships you already have.
- Prioritize in-person interactions when possible.
- Create traditions with the people that are important to you. This could look like a weekly dinner together or annual trip out of town.
- Be fully present, put away distractions, and practice active listening when you’re with someone.
- Express your gratitude to those that have made a big impact on your life.
- Reach out for help when you need it, and provide support to people who may reach out to you.
The science shows that social connection is essential for a healthy and fulfilling life. Just as you schedule in your appointments, meals, and workouts every week, consider also planning when you’ll make time to nurture your relationships. Your mind and body will thank you for it!